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The Danger in New Years’ Resolutions

As we close out one chapter on the calendar, who among us doesn’t start reflecting on resolutions for changed behavior?

Me, I do NOT. And I am proud to be a member of that club.  Let’s chat a moment about why…

Now, refocusing and aligning yourself with the goals and things you want to tackle, or focusing on positive horizons are arguably, positive.  There are land mines hidden in this approach.


Because you begin from a place of “I’m not good enough, but I’ll feel better about myself when I accomplish XYZ.” This belief can be stuck away in dark corners, while we cloak ourselves in false positivity.

You want to get THERE, but you can’t do it from HERE.

Like it or not my beautiful friends, you have to be in a place of appreciation and contentment in order to effectively hit the next higher feeling vibration or energy stream.  You don’t simply jump up there, from way down here.

There’s also the danger in placing your future happiness in the hands of something that may or may not happen.  That’s how you lose your power.

Is this hitting you sideways? How are you responding to this? It’s OK if you don’t agree with me.  Lots of people don’t.

My caution to you comes from a place of love and empowerment, not of divisiveness.  I’m encouraging you to spend your last few days of 2022 reflecting with true gratitude, what you’ve accomplished, no matter how large or small.  See yourself as a capable and dynamic, creative and awesome being. You haven’t maxed out on your awesomeness, you’re simply hitting the pause button for a moment and reflecting.  Where can you turn up the volume? Where can you pull back the curtain the tiniest bit? What can you add, or subtract? And how can you do it in daily, consistent, JOYFUL increments.

If something feels like punishment, I promise you, it’s not going to stick, and it’s not even good for you.

Here’s how you can effectively approach resolutions…

  • What am I doing well?
  • Do I want to continue doing that?
  • What’s acting as an energy drain on me?
  • Am I ready to let that go?
  • In what ways, if any, can I tweak my thinking about things?
  • How can I get myself to THAT place, energetically, through thoughts and intentions?
  • Do I trust the Universe to respond to my vibration?
  • Do I trust that the Universe will come through at the perfect time, for my very best and highest good?

That is where I’d start.  It’s different than a vision board, it’s different than deciding you’re going to upend your life and become a different person on January 1.  Why would you want to do that anyway? You’re pretty damn impressive, amazing, and uniquely crafted and why wouldn’t you want to be you?

Until you can approach the New Year with a sense of gratitude and expanded energy, hit a pause on those resolutions, OK?

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